November 28, 2020

Hot! How to Move On and Love Yourself After a Breakup

Why are breakups so hard to get past? Whether there was toxicity, infidelity, violence, or the two of you simply grew apart, the sting of letting go of a romantic tie is heartbreaking. While you try to tell yourself that, “This too shall pass,” the feeling of emptiness, defeat, and even embarrassment, often take over. 

Except for perhaps taking care of your kids or going to work, your downtime is spent feeling sorry for yourself as you mask the pain with unhealthy coping mechanisms. You know you should be moving on, embracing your singleness, and learning to love yourself again, but getting past the emotional overwhelm seems impossible. 

Though it can take time to get over a breakup and learn to accept the gift of being single, allowing yourself to remain stuck in this emotional rut can have grave consequences. Fortunately, you can learn to get on with your life, love yourself, and be happy being single. Continue reading to learn more. 

Find Healthy Ways to Release Negative Emotions

Whether your breakup is fresh or happened several months ago, there will be times when your mind is inundated with negative emotions. You’ll hear a love song and suddenly find yourself reminiscing about old times. A friend or family member might get engaged or have a baby, causing you to long for your own love life and family. 

When you find yourself feeling this way, having a form of release is necessary. You can try things like writing in a journal, venting to someone close, going for a walk, or reciting positive affirmations to pick you up. 

Rediscover Yourself

It’s not uncommon for people to lose themselves in relationships. You get so immersed in your partner and making things work that things like friendships, hobbies, pastimes, and passions take a back seat. You’ve allowed the needs of your relationship to consume you over the years that you have no idea who you are outside of it. Now that you’re single, you can use this time to rediscover yourself. 

Spend time doing things that once brought you happiness, learn some new skills or hobbies, plan a girl’s weekend, take a few solo trips, reevaluate your life goals, and invest in your health and wellness. The more in tune you are with yourself, the easier it becomes to embrace your singleness. 

Work On Your Confidence

After a breakup, it’s common to feel inadequate. Even if the split was for the best, you find yourself wondering where you went wrong, what you could have done better, and if you’re doomed to remain this way forever. Your confidence is all but depleted as you allow your inner voice to keep telling you that you’re not good enough for love. 

Low self-esteem, however, can hinder any future relationships you encounter. NOt to mention, it can hurt other areas of your life. If you’re going to get back on the horse again, you’ve got to work on feeling good about yourself. 

Fortunately, there are several ways you can boost your confidence after a breakup. You can invest in a new wardrobe and hairstyle, go out to single events and mingle with others, create a fitness and nutrition plan to reach your body goals, or explore your sexuality through sexy lingerie, dance classes, and self-help books. 

When you’ve been with someone for a while that you cared deeply about, moving on can seem like the hardest thing in the world. Though it may seem like your only options are to hold it all in or self-soothe with unhealthy coping mechanisms, these temporary solutions only lead to more pain. If you’re going to find happiness once again, learning how to release negative emotions, find your authentic self, and build your confidence is a great starting point. When you feel good from the inside out, you’ll come to be at peace with your singleness until the right one comes along. 

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